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Benjamin Meyer-Lewis

Richmond Marathon

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Target £0.00

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My story

[p]I don’t know where to start. On February 15th Yaeli was born a beautiful baby. Unfortunately she was stillborn. Her due date was February 12th and we went to the midwife that day. We could hear her heart beating. The midwife said she was not worried but because the tape measurement of Debs’ bump had not increased from the previous appointment, she referred us for a scan for the following week; saying ‘you will have already had the baby by then.’ We had nothing to worry about. It was just precautionary she had said. The next day Debs could not feel Yaeli move like she normally did. We tried everything before calling the hospital to come in. On the car journey to the hospital I tried to calm and reassure Debs that everything would be ok and maybe the baby wasn’t very well. When we arrived at the hospital we went straight to triage and a nurse tried listening to a heart beat on a Doppler. She heard nothing she tried reassuring us and straight away we went for a scan. I could see on the scan that the baby was not moving and when they went to the heart I could see and hear that it had stopped. [/p][p]Seeing that scan and hearing that silence was heart-breaking. We were so so shocked our world came crumbling down. We stayed in the hospital from when we got the news until Debs bravely gave birth to yaeli on the Saturday. She was amazing; I call her still to this day my goddess as she was unreal. [/p][p]Yaeli was so small she weighed at 5lbs3 but she was beautiful she had Debs’ nose and face but my small ears. The midwives were amazing and so was the support of our loving families we managed to get through the 4 days in the hospital and beyond that too.[/p][p]Over the last few months it has been very up and down mainly downs. However, we are both getting stronger although missing Yaeli every day and what could have been. Every first is very challenging and upsetting, but it is a step forward and a few steps back.[/p][p]We will never forget the amazing support that our family and friends have given us from making us food, baking us something, buying lovely and thoughtful gifts, helping me with my running schedule, making us laugh when it has been tough or just talking and listening to us. Words can’t describe how much love that has been given. We love you all![/p][p]Now back to what I am going to be doing. I have always loved sport; football and running are my favourites. I have also always wanted to run a marathon. I’d like to do the London Marathon. However, this year it is fully booked or may be cancelled. So I am still going to run a marathon. It is not THE London one, but it is in London (ish). I am running the Richmond Run Fest Marathon. I do not have that much time to prepare i.e. I have, as I am writing this, 10 weeks to get fully emotionally and physically fit. We are raising money for the amazing charities that have supported us since Yaeli died. We would like to raise more awareness for stillbirths and miscarriages both through Debs’ blogs and activities that she would like to take part in, and me running or taking part in some stupid activity that’s going to be excessive. [/p][p]We want to raise as much money as possible for these wonderful causes below who have all supported us since Yaeli's death. [/p][p][b]For a more detailed explanation of how these charities have supported us, please see Debs' most recent Blog 'More than Words' at; [/b][/p][p][b]https://debsmeyeris.wixsite.com/mummytoanangel[/b][/p][p]Tommy’s - Fund research into miscarriage, stillbirth and premature birth, and provide pregnancy health information to parents. We believe it is unacceptable that one in four women lose a baby during pregnancy or birth. We want every parent to have the best possible pregnancy outcomes and to take home happy, healthy babies.[/p][p]Alternatives Watford - is a charity that offers emotional and practical support for anyone facing pregnancy-related challenges. They offer counselling to those facing stillbirth, miscarriage, infertility, traumatic births, postnatal depression antenatal anxiety and depression, unplanned pregnancy and abortion. They also have shops which provide affordable maternity and baby clothing equipment and items. [/p][p]Royal Free Hospital Charity - We will be ringfencing funds for Stillbirth support and 3D castings for bereaved parents[/p][p]4 Louis - Provide useful tools, equipment and training free of charge to hospital units, hospices and other professionals who sadly have the job of comforting grieving families who suffer a miscarriage, Stillbirth Neonatal or child death.[b] [/b][/p][p]Sands (Stillbirth and neonatal death charity) - exist to support anyone affected by the death of a baby, to improve the bereavement care received by parents and families, and to promote research to reduce the number of babies dying. They provide a helpline, a bereavement support book and app, local bereavement support groups, an online community and memory boxes. [/p][p]If you have read this far, thank you very much. [/p][p]We know the Corona virus is affecting people’s livelihoods right now and it might be difficult for some people to donate a lot of money. But even if you can spare a pound or two or five, it would mean so much to us. More importantly it will mean the world to so many other parents and families now and in the future. [/p][p]Much love, [/p][p]Ben[/p]
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Oct 16, 2020

Sam and Devorah

With love

£20.00 plus £5.00 Gift Aid

Oct 8, 2020

Steve Newby

Hi Ben, sorry it took me so long to get round to this!

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Oct 4, 2020

Jess Lawson

Well done Ben!!! xxx

£15.00 plus £3.75 Gift Aid

Oct 4, 2020

Janet and Maurice

What a marvellous thing you have achieved!

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Oct 4, 2020

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Sep 29, 2020

Laura and Avi

Sending lots of love xx

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Sep 24, 2020

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Sep 19, 2020

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