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Darren Cross

London Marathon

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My story

[p]On the 26th April 2020 I will be running the London Marathon in support of Child Bereavement UK. [/p][p]Child Bereavement UK offers face to face support for families where a baby or child has died (even if that child never got the chance to live)or where children and young people, up to the age of 25, are bereaved. They also support families who are facing bereavement, where a child of any age is not expected to live, or where children and young people are facing the bereavement of anyone significant in their lives.[/p][p]All money raised is greatly appreciated and helps CBUK to provide specialised training to the many professionals who support bereaved children and families in the course of their work, including teachers, social workers, nurses, doctors, police and midwives to name a few. Enable families to continue to be supported free of charge both through their national helplines and face-to-face meetings. Help to continue to develop information on thewebsite to support families and professionals and help reduce feelings of isolation by providing an online forum for bereaved parents to talk to each other in a safe environment.[/p][p]So why have I decided to run the marathon now and why have I chosen CBUK as my charity of choice. Firstly, I had no intention of running the London Marathon, I have not run for years and I am not exactly in fit condition, my application was made during a random browsing session back at the beginning of May on yet another long sleepless night, during a time where I was suffering from deep depression brought on by the current circumstances of my life. After seeking help for this I discovered that, although the tipping point was in the present, I also still held onto a lot of grief from the past. [/p][p]I have a wonderful family, a loving wife,Kerry and three grown up sons. After the birth of our first son, Kerry suffered from post-natal depression, something that would last for many years. In April 1998, Kerry was 14 weeks pregnant with our second son when we got the devastating news that due to several deformations in the babies development that he would not survive the remainder of the term. We were advised and accepted that a termination at this point would be the best course of action. At this length of term Kerry still had to give birth to our son already knowing he was not living. This was a horrific time emotionally for us both, but particularly for Kerry, increasing her depression and dependency on medication. I was shocked about the lack of support available to us, but was able to press to get a funeral to give us some kind of closure. At the time I was not able to express my grief, and focused on my support of Kerry. Two years later, our third son was born healthy. Kerry’s depression eased slightly and a year later she fell pregnant again. It was during the scan in April 2001 that we saw the same look on the midwifes face we had seen 3 years previously and both knew there was a problem. Our fourth son had already passed away. This time we found even less support for us, we were unable to get a funeral this time around as our son was only 12 weeks. Again I focused all my support towards my wife helping her with her grief and depression. I never let myself grieve, I felt I had to be strong to support my wife as there was no other support offered.[/p][p]So why am I running for Child Bereavement UK? I’m running in memory of Brandon and Bartholomew and because I want to raise awareness of the fantastic support they offer for families and individuals, not just for situations like mine, but for all bereavements where either a baby or young person is involved. I truely believe that if I was aware of this support 20 years ago, Kerry and I would have been able to rebuild our lives together a lot sooner.[/p][p][br][/p][p][br][/p][p]?[/p]

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Nov 28, 2019

Mat H

A very worthy cause, well done.

£15.00 plus £3.75 Gift Aid

Nov 19, 2019

eppie

Dec 6, 2018

Dave and Diana Hibbert

£20.00 plus £5.00 Gift Aid