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Team story

[p]I guess you’re wondering why Dan,Dean,Phil, Rory and Chris are going to challenge themselves physically and mentally, by training to run the length of Wales. 200 plus miles over six days starting the 16 August 2021.[/p][p]So I’ll take you back to 7th May 2020, a routine 28 weeks’ check up with the midwife and what was to be the beginning of the hardest days of our lives.[/p][p]No heartbeat, no heartbeat, she tried and tried but still no heartbeat. [/p][p]Those words still resonate in my chest now, four months later.[/p][p]With our location in Wales being a painstaking and agonisingly slow 1 hour’s drive to our local hospital for our worse fears to be confirmed. [/p][p]Our precious baby was dead, before even being born. How did I not know as a mother? I had already failed at such an important job.[/p][p]Next I had to find Dan in the car park and let him know (Covid 19 regulations), my beautiful strong husband, broken by tears in a car park. [/p][p]Cups of tea and biscuits followed in the maternity ward. Impossible to eat or drink. [/p][p]After hours and hours in hospital, watching the second hand tick away, I gave birth to Maddie Stevens at 3:38 in the morning under the fullest of moons. The pain was horrendous but it wasn’t the physical pain, it was the fact that there was no cry. No life in our beautiful little princess. [/p][p]I could hear a baby’s cry on the ward but it wasn’t our baby. [/p][p]Maddie was born very unhealthy, little and so delicate we weren't even able to touch her, adding to the overwhelming feeling of failure as parents. [/p][p]The could have beens, the what ifs and whys started and are as strong now as they were then, whilst we still carve our way, carrying our precious Maddie with us. [/p][p]We will never get better, it’s not an illness, we will never forget but we will honour and try to make other people’s journeys slightly easier. [/p][p]We left hospital with a memory box - not a beautiful baby, a foot print and a hand print, at the time, I couldn’t cope with it, but know I sit and look and chat to our fierce princess and it offers comfort. The charity 4 Louis provide this memory boxes to hospitals throughout the UK.[/p][p]No book on pregnancy prepares you to bury your baby. It seems the subject just isn’t spoken about. One in four pregnancies end up in miscarriage - I knew that but we had passed 12 weeks. Stillbirth rates in the UK are 1 in 235. [/p][p]We both chat weekly to counsellors at Ty Gobaith (Hope House) as a bereavement service isn’t offered by the NHS in our area. We have both found help in carving our way forward and just carrying on. [/p][p]Help us think about how you answer the question from an innocent person “do you have children?” No? - then we don’t honour Maddie. Yes? - then we make the person feel really awkward when we say she died.[/p][p]How do you deal with these questions and statements too?[/p][p]“If I never see my children again, I’ve spent soo much time with them, I could have killed my children in the height of lockdown.” (when in lockdown).[/p][p]Or “Kate - never have a big family” [/p][p]Or hearing babies crying as you walk the dog or work in a busy tourist village. Each cry is like a dagger to the heart.[/p][p]Or even the really innocent one “how are you?” .... our baby died. We don’t know how to deal with the questions or how to answer them. How the hell should we? [/p][p]Society expects us to smile and cover things up but we’ve learnt it’s ok to not be ok and talk about it. Unexpected death is truly traumatic.[/p][p]We don’t know what our future will hold, but we know we’ll spread the word of stillbirth. We’ll ask people to show up in grief and stay in the awkward ugliness of it - the tears, the hate, the memory loss, the nightmares, the flashbacks, the guilt of feeling OK for a few moments, the triggers from tiny things, the overwhelming feeling of wanting to run away, the anger, the laughter and everything else it holds. We will ask people to help us spread the word by making donations and helping, but most importantly to us we will carry our beautiful little girl with us because “the next wave is yours. Have it.”[/p][p]Follow our fundraising journey at Facebook page Leg it- Fundraising in Memory of Maddie Stevens[/p][p][br][/p][p][br][/p][p][br][/p]
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Personal Challenge Date

16 Aug 2021

Supporters


Sep 16, 2021

Joe Stevens

Amazing work all of you, very inspiring x


Sep 9, 2021

Anonymous

£10.00

plus £2.50 Gift Aid


Sep 4, 2021

Kate

Thinking of you all - a beautiful tribute to Maddie xx

£21.00

plus £5.25 Gift Aid


Sep 3, 2021

Robin and Jennie

Phenomenal effort for such a worthy cause - well done. Hope Dan's feet are recovering!

£20.00

plus £5.00 Gift Aid


Sep 2, 2021

Anonymous

Amazing!

£20.00

plus £5.00 Gift Aid


Sep 2, 2021

Phil F-C

Fantastic effort to all the team. Well done.

£100.00

plus £25.00 Gift Aid


Sep 1, 2021

Julie and Andrew Stokes

£20.00

plus £5.00 Gift Aid


Aug 30, 2021

Peter Harmer

We’ll done Chris Prickett and all involved. Outstanding effort for such a worthy cause.

£30.00

plus £7.50 Gift Aid


Aug 30, 2021

Zoe Shepherd

£30.00


Aug 30, 2021

Sharron

Well done everyone, what a fantastic achievement.

£20.00

plus £5.00 Gift Aid

Kate Stevens

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Dean Stevens

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Philip Stevens

Philip Stevens

Chris Prickett

Chris Prickett

Rory Tighe

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Dan Stevens

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